11/18/2023 0 Comments Goop sexuality quiz![]() ![]() ![]() Isa Magdalena was actually co-teaching with Joseph Kramer during that same 2006 “sex bod” class, and from time to time she read her newly published book aloud to us, in her beautiful and expressive Dutch accent. Isa published two versions of her slim book, both of which remain among my all time favorite sex books. However, my fling with Jaiya’s quiz actually drew me back to an earlier embrace of another sexuality “system” - one that I continue to adore: Isa Magdalena’s “Libido Compass” (also called “Playing the Colors” and “Full Spectrum Sex”). ![]() Ester Perel’s usage of the phrase “erotic blueprints” is also found on page 53 of Speaking of Bodies: Embodied Therapeutic Dialogues, edited by Asaf Rolef Ben-Shahar, Liron Lipkies and Noa Oster (Karnac, London. Esther Perel used the term in her excellent book, Mating in Captivity (2006) and in a paper, “Erotic Fantasy Reconsidered: From Tragedy to Triumph”, published in 2014 in Critical Topics in Family Therapy. Other people have used the term previously in published work. * Just a note, though: in my opinion, the phrase “erotic blueprint” should not be trademarked. I wasn’t surprised by the result–I know who I am–but I’ll admit the report was a fun read and provides food for thought. I also popped the $17 for the longer quiz, the one that comes with a several page report on my leading Erotic Blueprint™ type. So, because Jaiya is Jaiya and I have nice memories and ongoing respect, I didn’t just take the free quiz. I liked what I knew of her then, respected her approach, and have since enjoyed knowing that she’s doing so well. Jaiya was one of my classmates in 2006, during Joseph Kramer’s Sexological Bodywork training at the (now defunct) Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality in San Francisco. Jaiya is one of the featured sexuality experts on the show and her work, as depicted, was superb. For example, because the Netflix series, Sex, Love & goop, is garnering so much attention, I took Jaiya’s * Erotic Blueprints™ quiz. Sometimes I also have my own fling with a pop quiz or survey–either for fun or because I want to see if it could be helpful for a client. I’ve never had a problem getting one hundred or more respondents to answer my questions, so I think this is another indication that we, collectively, are eager to know ourselves. I’ve also created a number of sex surveys myself, on such topics as objectum sexuality, erotic hypnosis, semen taste, and spectro-sexuality. And when I’m teaching the research-based PREP 8.0 marriage education course, a personality quiz called “Primary Colors” is included in included in the student materials. When appropriate I’ve also asked people to fill out an adult assessment for sensory intergration issues or to work through a copy of the late Jeanne Shaw’s excellent Journey Toward Intimacy… A Handbook for Couples (out of print and getting harder to find). In my work with clients, and based on what’s up with them, I’ve often made use of such systemized thoughts and practices as (1) Donald Mosher’s “Three Dimensions of Depth of Involvement in Human Sexual Response,” (2) Jack Morin’s three basic erotic types (erotic trance, partner engagement, and role play), Gina Ogden’s 4-D Wheel of Sexual Experience, and (3) Gary Chapman’s 5 Love Languages (you can find a quiz here). Researchers and clinicians use surveys and qualitative interviews to construct categories of sexual behavior, feelings, and “types” and systems of thought and practices to assist the various “types” with sexual and relationship dilemmas. Media uses pop quizzes to attract readers and sell products. This is the core allure of questionnaires, pop quizzes and self-tests: “What does the asking and the answering show me about who I am?”įrom an early John Money’s theory of “love maps,” first published around 1980, to John Gottman’s updated use of the term from “Cosmo Girl” quizzes (example: “ Find Out What Your Love Style Is“, Hsieh & Smothers, 2019) to the more scientifically and psychologically based Relationship Assessment Scale (Hendrick, S.S., 1998), there is no shortage of instruments with which to probe your own erotic landscape. In the 1940s and 1950s, the famous sex researcher, Alfred Kinsey, and his colleagues were able to ask approximately10,000 people some of the most intimate questions imaginable, probably because of this very craving. We all crave self-understanding, particularly when it comes to sex and relationships. ![]()
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